Family Counselling

In our definition, a family is any group of people who share a sense of belonging or togetherness. This includes step-families and in-laws and people who have chosen to share a dwelling or have a sense of connectedness, as well as, the traditional nuclear and extended family.

Because of personal differences, it is inevitable that there will be, at times, a conflict of needs and wants in any family or group.

Our goal is to work in a way that values and respects every member of a family or group so that each person feels heard and understood. We realise the importance of being unbiased if we want to be able to help bring about change in relationships. We believe, a solution to a conflict will not work successfully if it is at someones' expense. A solution needs to be right for everyone. This means that sometime the solution may just be an understanding and acceptance of differences.

We believe that, on the whole, there are rational reasons behind a person's behaviour and that they are trying to meet legitimate human needs such as safety and protection, acceptance and belonging, value and appreciation, autonomy and self-determination. Sometimes our behaviours, though understandable, are self-defeating and make it harder to get our needs met. For example, we cannot achieve closeness with another by being angry or by shaming them. Anger and shame will automatically cause a person to shutdown and distance.

Our goal, in family counselling, is to explore the issues and feelings of each person, in order to increase understanding of oneself and of the others so that a mutually acceptable resolution can be achieved for each person involved.

Counselling Room